While at the mall last evening, I made a quick trip to the ladies. Went into one cubicle and closed the door. Found that the door couldn't close. So I tried a little harder. Then I heard a little boy screaming just outside.
I opened the door to have a look. Oh goodness! It was the screaming boy's fingers that was causing the door not to close! Where did the boy come from??? Feeling really bad about it, I apologised to the boy's mom and asked if he was hurt. But she ignored me and tried to pacify her boy.
So I went back in. Next moment I heard the boy's mother scolding me from outside with both of them hitting at my door. She kept telling her boy that 'I'm bad' and she's 'hitting me' for causing him pain.
I came out and she was still at it.
Me : What are you doing?
Boy's mom : Oh, just 'hitting you' to tell my boy you are bad.
Me : I'm bad???
Boy's mom : Ya, you hurt his fingers.
Me : Have you thought that it's his own fault and he shouldn't have put his fingers there?
Boy's mom : He doesn't understand that.
Me : If he CAN understand that 'I'm bad' for causing him pain, he CAN understand that he's wrong for putting his fingers there in the first place!
By this time, everyone in the ladies are enjoying themselves watching us. You can tell by the smiles on their faces!
Boy's mom : You should've looked before closing the door.
Me : Excuse me for not looking out for 'little fingers' at the door!
Boy's mom : Aiyo, what's so difficult to let him think it's your fault?
Me : It's not difficult but ridiculous! Anyway, it's his fingers!! Good luck then if he can't keep his hands off toilet doors!!!
I walked off after that. No point wasting my time. I know..I know.., it's not my line to tell her how to teach her child. But I resent being 'used' as the subject of a 'wrong lesson'!
Ever wonder why some kids grow up to be the way they are?